Obviously_Chaos

 The story of Jesus, is that it doesn't matter who you are. Your only option,as far as other people go, is that you either play the role they can put you in, or you don't appear in their life..  Either way, you can only play the role other people cast you in. You don't get to play the role of who you are, at anytime you've just met someone or they just met you.  First, come assumptions. Afterwards, the truth can come.  First you have to play who they think you are  and within that role, if you can make an introduction to who you are really are? Then you can  However, everyone has assumptions. So, anyone who tries to show up as themselves, has entered a play they were not invited to perform  you get on stage as yourself, first , and you can only appear as the villain. The story of Jesus Christ, is the story of the God  of love. Over a people who needed to kill God. So, he became a man, and he became the God you can kill, in order to introduce the people who need to kill

 I want to discuss the ideal masculinity. Because, people still want to believe that selfish is still best, when it's supposed to be wrong. However, what is wrong, isn't wrong on its own. You don't know what wrong is, until you know what is right. SO what is the rightness, that is a perfect lifestyle for a man to live? I'll answer that question, however, it's important .. extremely crucial, actually that men understand the difference between hands on and hands off. It's a matter of directness. Sometime, women will need to approach who you are hands off. Trying to find herself,  in who you know her to be.sometikes, when there is no fear, and confidence, she will  e able to approach you and love directly.  Sometimes you need to treat things hands on. But most of the time, your  love needs to be indirect. And hands off. And subtle . And not open.  Hidden.  For example, you don't approach anyone's fear directly head on. That is what is always the biggest par

If there is a perfect Love, I would know about it. So, even if you are talking out of your ass, about something you know nothing about, even if you are making it up, as you go along: even if you speak what you are certain cannot exist: talk to me about perfect love.  I will know the reality, even when you do not. So, bless me. Remind me of what we already know, but won't know, unless you say it. Speak, and teach us what you don't know we know yet. That we will never know, if you do not create the voice of it Speak to me of the many little loves. And speak to me of the one perfect Love. Speak to me the many ideals of love. Speak them all to me. Say everything that is love, and everything that is not. And that will be love.  Speak to me in fantasy, and dreams, and visions, and speak to me as a psychic, a seer, a prophet, a teacher, a Father, a Mother, a Sister, a brother Lover, a God, a devil,,a scourge; a man, or a woman; speak of my punishments and remind me of our blessings.  

 You know, every woman's truest battle, that she will most likely win at, is founded in women's universal worst fear.  Which is that in the love of a man, she won't be able to hold back. She will give her whole self, and lose herself.  They fear total obliteration. That if she finds a total, full love, that she will lose everything, and I mean, every one. ... That every part of her  identity, up to that point, will just get deleted, in one grand moment of absolute surrender. This fear, is the motive, in every woman who married herself to a man she feels nothing for. This is a calculated decision, to make sure love never becomes a factor in her life. And the men who will allow a woman to be such a coward ,who enable these cowardly women to live loveless, disgust me. They disgust everyone.. You can know this is women's deepest fears, becausethe number one problem  defeating men and women, in marriage? In North America? It's that both partners disgust the other one.  A

 First off, there has never been anything I won't invest, including  investing into a situation  where I get murdered, where I held back my investment, against a real possibility of more, new, learned love. So, absolutely you CANNOT dismiss what I'm about to say, as the words of a coward, or a man who isn't willing to go all in, on everything. I have one rule, and one limit. Though. I will not let anyone else be spent on my search for love  I DO NOT let women partner to me, when I don't know what the love of her looks like That is exploitation . That's predatory. That's a con man long con. Give me your all, and if all the numbers add up, and I get everything, I'll look into it. And, I also don't play the numbers. I play the rationality. So, in terms of this post, id like to shame every man and woman who does female submission. It is the ULTIMATE, irrational, absolutely unintelligent stupidity and arrogance, for men and women to try and negotiate away a w

Theres a common thread to almost all open Internet postings, where naive, unassuming people think you can post a problem you don't understand, and have it explained to you. However, the common thread, whether it's reddit, or Facebook, or Tumblr, or wherever there is an open forum, is that if a woman describes something she likes, that isn't hers yet, and every time women try to innocently explain a problem she wants gone to save the relationship she values, 99.9% of the comments, are people telling her it's over. That the dude is  no good.  She's an abused woman, and 1000'S of Internet trolls will make it their personal mission to convince this woman they know nothing about, what their opinion is. Of course, because this is 99.99% of all the responses, every time, no matter what, it's a very cut and dry case where you can judge that all of those people are prejudiced. And just want to see women and what women want to down in flames. And, ni matter what a man

 I remember one time, responding to an ad, on Kijiji, for a window installer. Of course my stalker/rapist, and her network of spies and sex clients and her connections through the local representatives of the worlds six biggest gangs had permanently installed themselves as judge and jury over my every action.  And they were fully aware of the job I took, and that the man asked me to return  the next day, and that tentatively I had agreed. The problem of course, is that I'm impatient. My first 3 years of construction, nobody would work with me, because I worked too much....I was constantly dealing with guys inventing fake rebellions I hadn't done, and trying to get me fired. And luckily I had slow moving, slow deciding bosses otherwise I was getting canned once a month for my productivity being too high. . I have no patience for hard, or slow work. I have been trained by the best in the industry. And if you are a good worker, work goes as fast as lightning, and gives you more en

 The real stupidity, of being someone who is desired, is that the person who is desired, will often explore a path of what that can be used for, when they wrongly assume that that's a power. The stupidity of women, with men, is that women ask whether or not they are wanted, and many get brutally mis-used, and used, and abused, and get abusive, until it hurts too much, to keep assuming being desired is a power.  If women are ever to be successful with men, they have to come to learn that making men desire her, IS a given. But that all men are not equal. She needs to learn that attracting men happens, before she learns who that man is. Before she can start to notice that she can't control whether she attracts an abusive man and a good man. At that point, she will correctly view the fact men desire her, as a vulnerability.  Wanting to be desired, and wanting to make men desire herself, will be correctly seen, as what locks her into a relationship with a man, BEFORE she has had a c

 So, in every moment of your life, you can react, or respond to everything freely. You have many, many options. Of how to feel, or not feel. What to do, or not do. Think, or contradict. And so on. However, in order  to prove this, I would like to explore these truths, comparing the reaction the Jews gave themselves, that always end in murdering an innocent man. Versus, what rational, non-emotional, options were available to them.  The biggest reason why the religious leaders killed Jesus, was twofold. He said he was God. And he said he would die and resurrect.  Now, the religious leaders reacted, by strengthening their insecurity. So, they committed themselves to an "us vs. him" insecurity where the teachers were going to operate under the assumption  only one of them would survive. They assumed that Jesus would eliminate them, or they him, and they assumed that was the only two possible outcomes. I call that, committing to your insecurity. As in, insecure people do things th

 People who need to hide who they are, can no longer see themselves. Every problem, everyone has, because of them, with them, or because they are included, comes about, because they are blind, and cannot see themselves All of those issues, only go away, when that person will fully, by decision, or is forced to return to that place, where they decided to hide themselves, and became unable to see anyone.  All of the problems are rooted in that blindness. All of the problems only go away, with that person stopping themselves, and backing themselves up, to the moment where they thought remaining unknown, would be an asset.  It's never an asset. And not everyone can be lied to. There are MANY people, who can see what is true, no matter how well the truth is hidden. If you decide that being unknown, is your hand,  not knowing who you are, is the hand you've dealt yourself. If it will be secrets, and things that shouldn't be known, then, not knowing yourself, is the only certain r

 People with something to hide, view open transparency, as a loss of power However, it's actually a loss of power, in many more ways than they understand. 4 ways, to be precise. And all four of them, are actually the loss of their own power. And as a funny side effect, their selfish self disempowerment also makes it possible for other people who don't let themselves have good things, or leave bad things, happen to match. First off, the correct definition of lying, is what is said that is wrong, and what isn't said. That could be said. So let's get this issue clear right from the start. If you could say it, you should say it, and it'll be lying if you don't. Communication, treated like it is optional, and a favour, only creates mutually abusive relationships. Anyone, who treats communication, as optional, can ONLY create mutually abusive relationships  And sadly, they will ALWAYS be creating new abusive relationships  It's ironic. That self-empowerment, is ac

 It's funny, how people in first world countries idolize third world people, as the primary, and sole emotion that first world people feel, when they think about 2nd and 3rd world marriage. However, that is an emotion that is not always the only one, currently, and thankfully, for a lot of people, this worship of "opportunity" and character worship of 2nd and 3rd world culture, this isn't the case at all. Thanks, almost exclusively to feminism. But also no thanks. Because, the feminists create the basis for clear thinking, but, because most feminists are self-disempowered, you'll never catch one of them clearly discussing and knowing what exactly the issue is. Feminism gives rise to the vein of thought, where you consider feminism in the presence of economic change.  We know that men and women used to need marriage, just in order to survive. Women primarily, if you ask them. Because for women the issue was not being able to farm. So, women would likely starve, unl

 There's the rule, and then there's the exception to the rule.  However, the situation in the extreme ends, is not always different from the mean(majority) or average.  For example, if you contrast me, with the tens of thousands of sex clients my rapist/abuser had had, over the course of her life. And the several thousands of clients that she had, while raping me. The ten, or so failed marriages. The 50+ love interests, and the hundreds and hundreds of men who were casual interest.  It was interesting tho. Towards the end, she started to dump honesty on me. And she characterized me, as her addiction. You have to understand the positive aspect of abuse. Is that the only true victims are just non-violent lovers, who know that defending yourself, which includes keeping abusive people away from you, is only possible in the absolute sense, by abusing the abusers. So, the true victims prove the edge case, that protecting yourself is incompatible with being a lover. Abusers don't