The Capacity For Consent

The art of consent, begins tests, to force proof of who has a capacity to make a choice, or, you will see proof that ppl are making automatic, compulsive decisions that describe a pattern of self-betrayal, & self-victimization, and slavery, and those self-raping, unstoppable, unstoppable, ceaseless habituations will always reveal themselves, as an inability to discuss the topic. 

It's not a relationship trope, that after "Hello," and before every choice, every single couple that made good, and are great, between those two events, discussed everything. Every awesome couple, in order to get to know each other, had long, long, deep, super super deep discussions, where they both said it all, and they both said everything there is to say about being human, about attachments, about connection, about freedom, love, commitment, partnership, sex, etc....it was ALL mentioned. All of it. 

That's not a relationship goal. It's not an ideal, or a myth, as in, "would be nice, if it happens." The part where they are a fantastic couple, conflict free, doesn't EVER happen, unless all of those discussions happened. It NEVER happens. Never, ever, ever. If all those discussions don't take place, the potentials for being a couple are all bullshit. They options are all pure shit.

I define success by it's purity. So, success, is success, and their is nothing bad that is included with the good.. so, for those people who are socially successful, they were all CAPABLE of discussing every topic and discussing every way of looking at it, every opinion, every perspective. And none of the words they said and heard upset them, at all. None of the words triggerd them to feel desire. They had zero feelings. 

Zero feelings, or, no feelings attached, is actually the pre-condition before someone can talk things out. You can either have feelings about something(good, or bad) or, you have the capacity to discuss that thing every way possible. But, you cannot have both. It is one way, or the other. 

People who chose no feelings, who chose to be able to discuss everything, their reward is that they have the capacity to consent.. they have given themselves to option to choose, or to reject...they have the capacity to make choices about everything they are able to discuss. 

So, the very first time we meet, until they have proven that they are making choices, the first interactions with me, are a relationship test.. I raise all the topics. I mention all the perspectives. And, if people react by going into crisis, they are toxic, and have no consent to offer anyone, so, I separate myself, and keep them out of my life.. and, if people don't respond to my description of things, with the same statement, themself, dispassionately, without desire then, that person is toxic, and has no consent to offer anyone, they are incapable of determining what their state of consent is, so, nothing they do, do they consent to, or choose, and I don't want to be part of something that is rejected always and sometimes also chosen, on top, so, when pe0ppe are incapable of describing what is real, I separate myself from them,  immediately after seeing that, and i take steps to make sure that that person and I remain separate. Because they are self-rapists who are incapable of consent. And that is incompatible with my values. And incompatible with me. I make choices. I know whether or not I am consenting. I never cross myself, nor do I ever choose anything unless I fully want it, and I have proof in hand that nothing but that will take place.